I created a set of questions I call The Abundance List in the summer of 2005 when I was facing a devastating loss. I knew I would have to remind myself often of a day’s value otherwise my grief would blot out all. Answering the list nightly became a sustaining and enriching practice, and I still do it though my life is happier. I am sometimes given (or can’t help buying) gorgeous blank books, which I use for my lists.
The Abundance List
1. What is one thing that I’m grateful for today?
2. What is one thing that I saw today?
3. What is one thing that I did to say “yes” to myself today?
4. What is one thing that I learned today?
5. What is one thing that I did right today?
6. What is one thing I particularly liked that I saw or experienced today?
The answers to these questions can be big or small. For example, today I could say, “I’m grateful to be at home tonight. I saw the big tree in the backyard rising above the blue house. To say yes to myself, I cooked myself a good supper. I learned how to look up CD’s on the computer at work. One thing I did right was buy bananas at the grocery store. One thing I particularly enjoyed was waking up and seeing my lover’s face.”
Even on a miserable day, I can answer these questions and see a blossom in the rain.